AMOS - MALE SERVICES

Why is understanding and treating male abuse important?

• Suicide is the most common cause of death in MALES under 35

• In 9% of assault incidents, the victim attempted suicide as a result.

• Three in five (61%) victims of serious sexual assault suffered mental or emotional problems, while two in five (41%) reported having problems trusting people or having difficulty in other relationships.

• 65% Of Alcohol related deaths are MALES

• 79% Of drug related deaths are MALES

• 99% Of homelessness are MALES

• 75% Of prison inmates have been abused as children/adults

•  46% Of domestic abuse victims were MALE last year

• Nearly half of victims (45%) reported suffering physical injuries from the most recent serious sexual assault incident they had experienced since age 16. The physical injuries victims were most likely to suffer were minor bruising or a black eye (30%).

• Three in five (61%) victims of serious sexual assault suffered mental or emotional problems, while two in five (41%) reported having problems trusting people or having difficulty in other relationships.

• Victims reported contracting a disease in 3% of incidents

• Men who abused girls had 2-3 victim’s men who abused boys had 12-15 victims

Effects of abuse on male Victims

As well as the frightening statistics above there are many other side effects that can have life altering consequences for male victims, these are just some of them.

• PTSD

• Guilt and Shame

• Anger

• Fear

• Anxiety

• Self-Loathing

• Self-Harm

• Alcoholism and Drug Abuse

• Confusion Around Sexuality

• Appeasing [Needing to Be Loved]

• Flashbacks

• Intrusive Thoughts

• Viewing Sex as An Obligation

• Seeing Sex as a means to Exert Power

• Confusing Sex and Love

• Rigid Boundaries or Lack of Boundaries

• Difficulty Forming Close Relationships

• Trust Issues/Intimacy Issues

• Sexual Relationship Dysfunctions

• Difficulty with Authority Figures

• Vague or No Recollection of Early Years or Periods

• Psychosomatic Symptoms Including Long Term Ailments

Barriers to understanding male abuse

• Society is unaccepting of male abuse

• Males have never been given the opportunity to speak out

• Stigma attached ” It’s a gay crime” / “Women can’t rape men” / “Men can fight back

Some men feel the very fact that they have suffered abuse somehow weakens them in their own or other people’s eyes. 

Some men are scared of being laughed at, teased, judged or criticised, or that friends and family simply won’t believe them. Even thinking they should be able to shrug off emotional, physical and sexual abuse from a boyfriend or girlfriend, and that talking about it or asking for help makes them less manly. But this isn’t true, nobody thinks boys or men who are abused are any less manly.

In 2014, on average 2 men a month were killed at the hand of their partners in both Heterosexual and Homosexual relationships in the UK, this figure is set to rise when statistics are released later in the year for 2015

Many Things can make us feel isolated…

If you’re reading this it’s likely that you are feeling isolated or overwhelmed. We’re here to tell you that you’re not alone. AMOS is here to support you. Many men can find themselves at the point of despair. We’ve found that being around others who understand your troubles can be a great help. You might want to talk over your problems, find help with certain aspects of your life or simply be around people who won’t judge you or your lifestyle.

1 to 1 support and counselling

With the waiting list for NHS counselling growing there is an increased need for people to receive and access these services. Individual, confidential support for men 16 and over who have been abused. Clients can self-refer or can be referred by other agencies.

This is a chance to disclose any abuse historical or present and to look at positive coping mechanisms and how the effects of abuse may have had life altering changes.

For an appointment or just to discuss any fears you may have call 01869 232369 or use the contact form. All information is treated confidentially and there is never any pressure to disclose anything that you are not comfortable with.

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Men's Support Group

coming soon

Weekly meetings offering confidential support, information and strategies for positive change. Open to all men who are experiencing abuse or who have been abused in the past. Participants share feelings, concerns and fears with one another and learn about the issues and available options as well as finding yourself.

To learn more, contact the group facilitator on 01869 232461

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Male Abuse Freedom Programme

coming soon