Male Services -AMOS
We provide support services to male victims of abuse
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With the waiting list for NHS counselling growing there is an increased need for people to receive and access these services. Individual, confidential support for men 16 and over who have been abused. Clients can self-refer or can be referred by other agencies.
This is a chance to disclose any abuse historical or present and to look at positive coping mechanisms and how the effects of abuse may have had life altering changes.
For an appointment or just to discuss any fears you may have call 01869 232369 or use the contact form. All information is treated confidentially and there is never any pressure to disclose anything that you are not comfortable with.
Counselling and 1 to 1 support
Men's Support Group
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Weekly meetings offering confidential support, information and strategies for positive change. Open to all men who are experiencing abuse or who have been abused in the past. Participants share feelings, concerns and fears with one another and learn about the issues and available options as well as finding yourself.
To learn more, contact the group facilitator on 01869 232461
Male Abuse Freedom Programme
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Many things can make us feel isolated…
If you’re reading this it’s likely that you are feeling isolated or overwhelmed. We’re here to tell you that you’re not alone.
AMOS is here to support you. Many men can find themselves at the point of despair. We’ve found that being around others who understand your troubles can be a great help.
You might want to talk over your problems, find help with certain aspects of your life or simply be around people who won’t judge you or your lifestyle.
Understanding Male Abuse
Here at Clean Slate we have years of experience treating men who have suffered from abuse. We believe that it is important to understand the unique challenges facing victims of male abuse. Social stigma can be a barrier to understanding male abuse, while the effect of abuse can have life altering consequences.
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Suicide is the most common cause of death in men under 35
In 9% of assault incidents, the victim attempts suicide as a result
75% of prison inmates have been abused either as children or adults
61% victims of serious sexual assault suffered mental or emotional problems
41% reported having problems trusting people or having difficulty in other relationships
45% report suffering physical injuries from the most recent serious sexual assault incident they had experienced since age sixteen
30% suffered minor bruising or a black eye
Men Make Up
65% Of Alcohol related deaths
79% Of drug related deaths
99% Of homelessness
46% of domestic abuse victims last year
Barriers to understanding
There are many barriers to understanding male abuse including a society that is can refuse to accept its existence. Many men have never been given the opportunity to speak out and some are afraid of the consequences if they do.
There are many stigmas attached to male abuse and false ideas that show a lack of understanding. Phrases like "Women can't rape men", "Men can fight back" and "It's a gay crime" can keep victims from speaking up and getting the help they need. These also spread harmful lies that perpetuate the stigmas attached to male abuse, which can keep men trapped in damaging situations.
Some men feel the very fact that they have suffered abuse somehow weakens them in their own or other people’s eyes.
Some men are scared of being laughed at, teased, judged or criticised, or that friends and family simply won’t believe them. Even thinking they should be able to shrug off emotional, physical and sexual abuse from a boyfriend or girlfriend, and that talking about it or asking for help makes them less manly. But this isn’t true, nobody thinks boys or men who are abused are any less manly.
In 2014, on average 2 men a month were killed at the hand of their partners in both Heterosexual and Homosexual relationships in the UK, this figure is set to rise when statistics are released later in the year for 2015
Effects of abuse on male victims
Like all victims of abuse men can suffer from a wide variety of life altering side effects. Some of these include:
Guilt and Shame
Alcoholism and Drug Abuse
Confusion Around Sexuality
Appeasing (Needing to Be Loved)
Viewing Sex as An Obligation
Seeing Sex as a means to Exert Power
Confusing Sex and Love
Rigid Boundaries or Lack of Boundaries
Difficulty Forming Close Relationships
Trust Issues/Intimacy Issues
Sexual Relationship Dysfunctions
Difficulty with Authority Figures
Vague or No Recollection of Early Years or Periods
Psychosomatic Symptoms Including Long Term Ailments